In the diverse world of
Internet dating many men find that Russian and Ukrainian brides often
pursue relationships with partners who are significantly older than them.
It is not uncommon to see an 18 year old young woman communicating with a
40-45 year old man. On one hand, it might seem strange; however, there is
a list of reasons why it all makes sense.
It is common knowledge that
girls mature faster than boys. In the former
USSR countries this process seems to be even more accelerated. Many
children here see how hard their parents have to work just to provide the
food for the family every day, they know the challenges of life, they
watch the corruption and unfair proceedings of the country.
Girls, in particular, often face behavior that in some other countries
could be considered harassment: many women can find a job and earn money
only if they win favor of their male bosses; often ladies are perceived as
merely dolls without brains. Basic instinct of self-preservation and
aiming for improvement make Russian women search for better alternatives
and men, who can appreciate them.
Until recent years there was a tendency among Ukrainian and Russian mail
marry men close to their age who were either their high
school sweethearts or college/university pals. Statistics show that 60-70%
of marriages fall apart within the first three years of the union.
Many women end up leaving the relationship with children, as well as
disappointment in men their age from their home country. As a result, they
turn to foreign men who are older and expect them to be more courteous,
wise and caring.
An additional factor in searching for older men is also
psychological awareness. Since many
girls grow up in incomplete families
and are abandoned by their fathers, when they search for a relationship,
on a subconscious level they veer more towards older partners. In other
words, they are looking for a father figure. They sometimes don’t even
realize it, but when they turn to older men, they are looking for someone
to be their protector, someone who'd take care of them and give them
security they were deprived of as a child.
Although such pressure is getting less in the current days, until recently
a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of
22-23. On the contrary, most men do not face much pressure and begin
getting serious about starting a family only close to their 30s. That
automatically puts a 7-8 year difference between the partners. Add to it
the time that men spent with the wrong partner in a previous
marriage/relationship, and that puts available male candidates right at
their late 30s – early 40s, which creates such a drastic age difference
between the ladies and them.
Bottom line is: true love has no boundaries. If you find someone who seems
attractive and interests you as a person, be daring and take a chance of
finding your special one despite the age and distance.