Do not reject a bride with a
child or two out of hand. There are many reasons for this state. First,
almost all Ukrainian and Russian women get married between the ages of
18-24. Like any marriage where people get married at a young age, people
can grow apart, as they get older.
Addiction to alcohol, disenchantment with the responsibility of family
life, the draw of available girls outside marriage, the economic and
political disturbance that has taken place over the past years, have all
taken a toll on marriages in Ukraine and Russia.
Consider that many of the Russian
brides you will meet, who do not have
kids, may well have been married before. Keep in mind, most men who join
Russian dating sites are either divorced or separated themselves. Consider
that children raised in Russia or in Ukraine often are better behaved than
European or American children. Making a living in the new economy can be
downright dangerous if you are trying to take the fast track to success.
Many people are jealous of the lifestyle of rich Russian or Ukrainian.
In addition, alcoholism, crime, and the military lead to a much higher
death rate of men in Russia and Ukraine than in the west. The life
expectancy of a man in the former USSR is now fifty-seven years of age.
At the fall of the Soviet Union, males life expectancy was nearly
sixty-five. That is over an eight-year reduction in life expectancy in a
ten-year period. The reduced life expectancy of
Russian men has added to
the large population of single and available Ukrainian and Russian brides.
With regard to making a marriage last, consider that a woman with a child
or children will usually work harder to make your marriage work than one
without children. They have their children’s welfare as their number one
If she sees that her kid is happy at home, she will go a lot further to
make the relationship work than a woman who has no commitment other than
herself. They have already experienced the complexity of divorce or death
of their spouse. They have already experienced what it is like to raise a
child on their own. They are risking their child’s welfare as well as
their own in moving to a new country, with a new language, a new culture,
without benefit of friends or family, to live with a man who is still much
unknown to them.
Much of their desire to marry a Westerner is to make a better life for
their children. They are looking for a situation where their children will
have more opportunity. This is true for ladies who are planning on having
children with you as well. In direct words, a 30 years old woman with a
child is much more likely to work out a relationship than a 20 years old
girl who is looking for an adventure.
Last word: Don’t avoid brides with children. You may be overlooking a
diamond hiding among the costume jewellery.