There are many errors and
oversights that a man can make when trying to court a Russian girl. It is
only natural to slip up in the beginning; there are big cultural
differences, and it is a foreign situation. Keep messing up, though, and
you will find that you are wasting a lot of both time and money. These
mistakes are in no particular order, and they are all of identical
Top 7 mistakes men usually do when chasing Russian and Ukrainian girls:
1. Projecting The Attitude That She Jumping At The Chance To Marry You. If
you are attentive and kind, she may be interested. If you are rude and
arrogant, she will not be. Do not act as if you are better than her. A
Russian girl is not desperate. Besides that, why would you be interested
in somebody who is only interested in you because she is in the pursuit of
a better life, anyway?
2. Thinking That She Will Be Your Trophy Wife.
Russian girls are not
docile creatures. They grew up in different conditions and have had to
endure a lot. Many are very independent and strong, and have made a lot of
hard decisions in the past. They have dealt with drunkard husbands and
boyfriends who refuse to make family life easy, or who do not think twice
in finding a mistress. It is almost impossible to control a Russian woman,
so do not try.
3. You Are Not Serious. Generally, women will wait 4-6 months for you to
decide that you are coming to visit her. If you do not come to the FSU
(Former Soviet Union) in a few months after that, she will move on to
she does deem as serious. Generally, 8-10 months is the
absolute longest time that a girl will write to you before she gives up.
It is important for you to get there because she cannot ever her visa if
you do not come, and she needs to make sure that you two are able to click
in person as well. Make sure that you are ready emotionally, financially,
4. There Is A Large Age Gap Between You And Her. Sure, some men have
success when there is a 20-year or more age difference. Some men also win
the lottery. Granted, Russian girl do grow up a lot quicker than their
western counterparts, so a 10-15 year age difference may very well work.
Anything more than 20 years is pushing it, though. You will likely not
have as much in common and the activities that you would want to do would
probably be different as well.
5. You Are Not Consistent. If you are not regular and reliable when
writing her letters, she will likely want to cut communications with you.
If you tell her that you want to visit her, but then have a change of
heart, and then re-change your mind, again, she will likely stop talking
to you. Many of these women are serious and do not want to waste their
6. Your Introduction Letter Does Not Grab Her Attention. There is a lot to
be said on this topic, but for now, a quick rundown. Russian girls do not
want pen pals, first of all, so you need to make sure that you explain
your intent. Letters with photos have staggeringly better response rates,
so make sure that you include one in your first letter. You can also ask
for a response, even if she is not interested. She just may write back.
Another good idea is to have your letters translated. Despite how good her
English may be, there are huge chances of miscommunications. If you get
your letter translated, she will be able to understand the entire thing,
would be grateful, and would most likely respond to you.
7. You Do Not See Your Relationship As Being An Equal Partnership. Much
like with all women, Russian
girls want and need to be treated with
respect. If you are not willing to view your relationship as a
partnership, then you should consider remaining single. To reiterate #7,
these women are not desperate, and will not run to marry you just because
you are from America.
8. Not Taking This Article Seriously. Russian girls are very reserved
about their feelings; do not just assume that everything is okay because
she is not telling you otherwise.